Meet the Author
Douglas H. Ruben, PhD, is a nationally recognized forensic and clinical psychologist with more than 43 years of experience. He has completed over 6,000 forensic evaluations and conducted more than 3,000 workshops nationwide. Known to many as “Dr. Date,” he has appeared on radio, television, and digital platforms, offering insights on human behavior, relationship dynamics, and emotional wellness. His professional journey includes mentoring under iconic behavioral scientists, including individuals trained directly by B.F. Skinner and J.R. Kantor. Ruben’s career reflects a lifelong commitment to translating behavioral science into practical guidance for everyday people.
About the Book
Rate Your Date: A Primer for Selecting Healthy Partners is a refreshingly direct and behaviorally grounded guide to navigating the modern dating world. Instead of focusing only on romance or seduction techniques, the book centers on the science of human behavior—how people act, why they act that way, and what that means for those seeking meaningful relationships. The book helps readers quickly determine whether a potential partner is safe, healthy, or a walking red flag. Packed with real case examples from Ruben’s decades of clinical work, it offers tools to break toxic dating cycles, avoid emotional pitfalls, and confidently pursue relationships rooted in trust and compatibility.
Inspiration Behind the Book
Over 8,000 clients played a role in shaping this book. Throughout four decades of clinical and forensic work, Dr. Ruben repeatedly saw individuals fall into the same destructive dating patterns—choosing partners who were impulsive, selfish, abusive, or emotionally unavailable. Even after experiencing painful breakups or harmful partnerships, people often gravitated toward similar individuals. This phenomenon, which Ruben calls “serial partner attraction,” inspired him to write a guide that explains—through behavioral science—why these patterns occur and how readers can escape them. His goal: give people a roadmap to healthier love.
Why Readers Love It
• It simplifies complex behavioral science into practical, relatable guidance.
• It reveals the hidden patterns behind attraction, chemistry, and partner selection.
• It offers clear examples of toxic partners—B’s and C’s—and why they are so addictive.
• It teaches readers how to find healthy, reliable “A-type” partners.
• It empowers people who are tired of dating the same harmful personalities.
• It provides a fast, effective method to evaluate dates before emotional investment.
Who Should Read It
Rate Your Date is ideal for:
• Anyone who repeatedly chooses the wrong partners.
• Individuals recovering from breakups, betrayal, or emotional manipulation.
• Singles navigating online dating or re-entering the dating world after divorce.
• People who want a science-based approach to love.
• Readers who crave practical tools—not vague advice—to understand relationships.
• Those who want to build confidence, set boundaries, and choose healthier partners.
Looking Ahead
Dr. Ruben continues to expand his work on behavioral science and relationships. He remains active in clinical practice, public speaking, and authorship, striving to equip individuals with the tools needed to identify healthy emotional patterns. Future projects may explore deeper connections between dating psychology, reward systems, trauma responses, and long-term relationship success. His mission remains clear: to help readers break harmful cycles and embrace healthier love.
Where to Find the Book
Rate Your Date: A Primer for Selecting Healthy Partners is available in paperback and hardback through Outskirts Press and can be purchased worldwide through major retailers including Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and other distribution partners. To learn more about the author and his additional works, visit Outskirts Press or your preferred bookseller.
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