Recovery Trade Publications

"Living with addiction is not a spectator sport! Whether men admit it or not we are affected. Well written, insightful and to the point, We Codependent Men, finally discusses the missing pieces for men whose lives are touched by addiction. Without a doubt I recommend this book for those men in need of healing and to those who love them.” Robert J. Ackerman, Ph.D., Author, Silent Sons; and Chairman of Sociology Department, University of Pennsylvania _____________________________________________________________________________ “Finally! A book that gives a powerful voice to the quiet and hurtful truth of men whose lives are shattered by the addictions of those they love. A landmark book, We Codependent Men, plants the seeds of empowerment and provides real-life solutions for the enabler to reclaim his sanity. This must-read, life-changing book will catapult you from chaos to calm, and provide you with the valuable insights and tools you'll need to not just survive, but thrive! You'll want to revisit these pages again and again...” J. Carol Pereyra, Editor-in-Chief, Going Bonkers Magazine ______________________________________________________________________________ “There is a need for this book for codependent men. In my association with the many men and women who attend 12-Step Retreats at Holy Name Passionist Retreat Center, the codependent men have the greatest fear and the least knowledge or understanding of their relationship with the addicted person in their life. As the man in the family, they are supposed to have the answers and they don't. This book begins to give some answers.” Fr. Joseph Moons, Director of 12-Step Retreats, Holy Name Retreat Center, Houston, Texas ________________________________________________________________________ “You are not alone and there is help! For over 65 years, NCADD and our National Network of Affiliates have been on the front lines offering Hope, Help and Healing through education, information/referral, intervention and recovery support for millions of individuals and family members. And without question, NCADD has seen a dramatic increase in the number of men seeking help due to the alcoholism or drug addiction of a spouse, child or other family member. Without help, there are devastating consequences for everyone. And, thanks to Ken and Bob, ‘We Codependent Men’ provides an invaluable resource specific to men and their unique recovery journey. Written from the heart of experience, the book provides powerful, inspirational personal stories and tools for recovery to serve as a guide and support.” Robert J. Lindsey. M.Ed., CEAP, President/CEO, National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence, Inc. (NCADD)

This book was written for the man who is living with an addicted person who still considers addiction a problem that he can solve on his own. If you are such a man, whether you have admitted it consciously or not; you see some loved-one’s behavior as a problem that you may somehow solve. This misconception is not only perpetuating your loved one’s disease; it is destroying you as well. If you can read this book and learn about how addiction affects family members, then you have a chance for recovery. Your loved one’s addiction is not a problem you can solve. You can only ask for help. As you will discover here, it is available from many sources. What we are saying is that you are absolutely powerless over someone else’s addiction. You may be a CEO, a minister, a physician, an attorney, a policeman, a psychiatrist, or the president. Until you admit this fact first to God, to yourself, and to another human being, the true healing cannot truly begin. One fact that you may not realize is that you may be part of the problem! A clear way to see this problem is to use the following illustration: If you have planned a picnic and it has started raining, that is a fact. You cannot solve this fact. Your only choice is to decide how you are going to react to this fact. Once you understand that addiction is a fact, acceptance can follow. As you will read in our stories about how we tried to survive while living with addicted people, finally coming to that acceptance can be a horribly long and arduous process. May our book help your recovery process begin sooner.