This book is for you! Most of us can think of a time when our loved ones doubted us or never thought we would amount to anything extraordinary. The "Watch Me!" attitude is a journey into your inner most thoughts, feelings, and desires as well as a method to accomplish all you dream to be. By practicing these techniques daily, you will reach your goals and prove all your doubters wrong! But the "Watch Me!" attitude is not about achieving personal success with anger and revenge just the opposite it is an enlightening journey to discover your Best Self and Higher Purpose in Life through using helpful Motivational & Spiritual Psychological techniques which includes learning: + Positive Self-Talk for Mood & Mind Control + The Lessons of the "5 D's" to Achieve your Dreams + Progressive Goal Setting in a Step-by-step Process + Achieving Balance in all your Life Spheres + A Sense of Spirituality to Reach your Higher Purpose Separate chapters are included for Couples, Parents, and Teens with advice on how to change a dysfunctional relationship, as well as how to raise children with these essential life skills. Reach your ultimate personal and business goals while enjoying an inspiring life full of success and happiness by living with the "Watch Me!" attitude. Riana Milne has a triple Masters Degree in Applied Clinical Psychology, and is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Drug & Alcohol Counselor with her own practice, Therapy by the Sea, LLC. She has also been a Student Assistance Counselor within various schools at all grade levels. Being an Inter-Faith Minister, Riana often uses Spiritual concepts added to her Motivational Therapy style to help create Holistic change for personal growth in mind, body and soul; as well as to help people of all ages reach their goals, dreams, and Higher Purpose in Life. The "Watch Me!" attitude began for Riana at age 16 with her own challenging journey, but became a way of life and an Instructional Motivational Program for Success for students of all ages; including many models, actors, singers, dancers, business, corporate and therapy clients over the past 22 years. Riana is also a Professional speaker and Advice columnist living in southern NJ. Co-Authored by Alexi Danielle Panos, the youngest daughter of Riana Milne; Alexi is an amazing young woman who has climbed to the top of many personal and professional ladders. After reaching a high level of worldly success in the music and fashion industries at the age of 16 and in the corporate world at age 21, Alexi recognized that true success could only come from within. What started as an external drive, the "Watch Me!" attitude has now become something that Alexi challenges her inner self with everyday. Now she dares you to let yourself go and take the first step of your own Ladder of Goals and Dreams and continue the climb as you explore and come to know the real, authentic you! CLICK HERE TO VISIT MY WEB SITE www.RianaMilne.com and for Alexi go to - www.AlexiPanos.com
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BOOK HIGHLIGHTS "Watch Me!" is not about anger or revenge. It is an inner journey of growth, developing a sense of spirituality to heal and survive, using meditation and Positive Self Talk for inner strength and balance in life, and doing daily goal setting to reach your Highest Purpose. This philosophy will teach you that your own success is your best revenge and not to lash back in anger or retaliation to the people that have hurt you. Instead, you will discover that someone's doubts and efforts to destroy you are now the driving force for you to succeed. Maybe you have this burning desire to accomplish a certain goal but your fears keep you paralyzed in getting started. Or, you have been working towards your dream, but friends and family laugh at your endeavors and make you feel like you're not good enough to succeed. Perhaps you have this nagging, negative, critical inner voice that constantly puts you down ruining your confidence, self-esteem and chance of reaching your goals. Just maybe, something in your life may not be working quite right or you are experiencing a horrific, unexpected transition; making you feel overwhelmed, stressed out and depressed. Possibly, you have dared to dream to achieve exactly what you want in life and wonder how to go from the dream into living the reality of that dream. It is one thing to think, ponder, and imagine the vision of the ideal life; it's another to absorb the vision, have it be your driving force and purpose in life, and live each day on the path to actually achieving those dreams. The "Watch Me!" attitude will be your inspiration to reaching and living your inner vision; your ability to keep an intense focus to create the exact life you want. By living totally "in the now," you will realize the importance that each day is truly a gift. It is an opportunity to take one more step to a well-balanced life full of purpose, peace, inner light, a sense of spirituality, and a knowing contentment of having a life fully lived. Meditating on these concepts is how one prepares on a daily basis for personal life-long happiness and success. Would you believe it if I said that YOU, no matter what your current age, can also reach that degree of personal happiness, joy, peace and success if you learn the techniques of the "Watch Me!" attitude and the secrets to the balance in life? The "Watch Me!" attitude is simply an inner motivational program that helps one to strive to reach their goals, dreams, desires and purpose. Pain is our biggest teacher; the struggles from our past are simply our lessons we needed to experience to reach our most powerful and highest best self. Using a combination of spiritual and motivational psychotherapy techniques to get past one's pain, learning a different way to perceive one's challengers and practicing the art of forgiveness, is all a part of this plan. It is NOT walking around with a sense of entitlement, having an arrogant personality, or a defiant attitude! Just the opposite it is a program of having constant mental Positive Self Talk, daily reflection or meditation, following the included core lessons and spiritual principles with every choice that you make, living in balance, and knowing what you want - defining your goals and living the lessons of the 5 D's to reach them. Always remember - your personal success and sense of pride is the best revenge. There is never a wrong time to live, breath and work the "Watch Me!" attitude system; and once you start living in this way, you will never want to turn back.
I am just an ordinary woman; my story is one that many women, men, and teenagers can relate to. It's about conquering fear, depression, doubt, struggle and pain in a time of difficult transition. It's about overcoming all the negative messages many of us have within our minds of not being good enough, smart enough, athletic enough, talented enough, or good-looking enough; or for those of us who have been doubted, put-down, criticized, told their dreams "were a joke," and that they'd never amount to anything extraordinary; or for the actors/models/singers/dancers who were told "they'd never make it."
This is also a story for other single mothers and fathers trying to keep sane while attempting to keep their family life together, for parents who are frustrated with depressed or angry children, for people in recovery or questioning if addiction is a problem for them, for those who are stuck in making a decision to move out of or fix a toxic relationship, for couples wanting a more successful and loving relationship, and for teens looking for answers about their future. I understand, I've been in all these situations, and I hope in some way I can inspire you to overcome the negativities of your past or current point in life, so you can move beyond the fear and pain towards a more positive, happier future.
My 22-year-old daughter, Alexi, is co-authoring this book with me by contributing four chapters in Part Two; It Works for Young People Too! I have asked her to include her story of growth, struggle and success starting at age 15; as well as the techniques she uses to make the "Watch Me!" attitude work for her. Alexi has been living her dreams, one goal at a time. She sings on two platinum CDs, handles her own model and talent bookings, and has appeared in over 12 music videos for various artists. She has also appeared in over 17 magazines either with her own fashion feature or articles regarding her successes as a businesswoman, singer and model; or within various advertising campaigns. She also writes lyrics, produces music and does DJ mixing. Alexi just appeared in a nationally televised TV show on BET called Rip the Runway 2006, has three TV pilots under her belt, and she recently appeared on CNN's ShowBiz Tonight in a 10-minute debate arguing the point of a women's role in today's popular music. Most recently, she is CEO of the EPIC Charity (Everyday People Initiating Change) raising funds for children in need in Africa.
Partial Proceeds from this book are being donated to Alexi's EPIC Charity and to the Riana Milne Scholarship Fund for the Performing Arts.
From the Couple's Chapter
The "Watch Me!" attitude also includes clarifying what you want and need in a personal relationship and knowing the traits that a healthy, evolved person will have as well as being aware that a toxic person or relationship is not acceptable. A toxic person can be described as someone negative, controlling, angry, addicted, demanding, or demeaning; or who tries to hold you back from your Higher Purpose because of his own lack of self-esteem. With you becoming an evolved, spiritual human being, you will find you cannot possibly endure a toxic relationship that is full of anger and abuse. Having the inner strength to move forward, release this person in love, and get out of the toxic relationship is often very difficult, especially for a woman with children to support. I know, as I have had to do this myself. Even though it is not easy, you will develop the inner strength to do what ever it takes to have peace in your life for you and your children. Through prayer, study, meditation and living in this philosophy, these motivational techniques will carry you through these tough times. This program will help you have the inner wisdom to make wise choices based on your personal purpose in life, and will give you the strength to do what your passion desires, without letting anyone else bring you down in the process. When people doubt us, it is our human reaction to often respond in anger and defiance, and want to seek revenge against those who belittle us. You will find this is not necessary; you will not respond with anger at all. Instead, you may say, "I'm sorry you feel that way, but I do not. Watch Me, succeed, past the test, make the team, succeed in this business," or whatever you dream to accomplish. Instead of being angry, you now know that your doubters have given you the gift of becoming driven to succeed. It is at this time you will start using the Lessons of the 5 D's desire, determination, dedication, devotion and dare to dream to become motivated and to reach your goals one step at a time. You will see that your enemies have become part of the journey; and in reality, a teacher to help you reach the God-given greatness you were suppose to achieve all along. In this respect, you will no longer harbor any anger nor have any enemies. Your life will become peaceful and your personal success will come knowing you are living your life with passion and a Higher Purpose. This mental mind-shift in how you perceive people and what they attempt "to do to you" will make you very strong. There will be a time to stand up in a firm and assertive way, but you make your point and move forward. You do not waste time in wondering, "How you will get back at them," for you know that serves no purpose but to keep you stuck in negative thoughts. That is not important, but what is, is removing the perception of their ability to bring you down to make you "look small." Your sense of strength and confidence will be so evident, that you will leave them in the dust trying to figure out why they can't upset you any longer. Becoming a spiritual, loving person is an extremely important part of this program. Because without it, the "Watch Me!" attitude could become a way of defiance and inner anger; if that happens, it will not work for you. This book is not about winning with your ego, but instead, living with spiritual grounding and inner strength so that you can move forward in life by taking your God-given talents and reaching out to the world to serve others. The rewards are many; once you begin on your path to greatness by living your sense of purpose you will feel the higher level of evolved human being that you are becoming. It is that "high," that exhilaration, that incredible feeling of living a peaceful life full of purpose that will keep you "in the zone" and help you reach your fullest degree of contentment, joy and personal success. Welcome to the "Watch Me!" attitude!
From the Parenting Chapter: Remember, you are your child's role model. Your child learns from YOU how to handle his anger, frustrations, and ways to show love and respect towards others. Children will carry your example forward in life make it a great one!
If you tell your child he is bad and stupid, he will be bad and feel stupid fulfilling your expectations. Tell him he IS smart and wonderful, and he will BE smart and wonderful!
With The Positive Parenting approach, the parent requires his child to tend to his chores or responsibilities as part of the family team. There is direction given, and a time frame to complete the tasks. Honesty is encouraged, so that the child feels safe to tell you the truth, and does not try to lie or place blame. If the truth is told immediately, there is a small consequence to the action, but not as severe as if they had lied. What the child learned from the lesson is discussed, and the parent talks about his feelings as to why he is worried for his child, and it always ends with, "because I love you and want you to be safe." The form of parenting that I encourage you to use, along with the tips I have given you (to do and not to do), will help you to raise healthy, happy, intelligent children who love to learn and who will grow up to be successful and confident. Teach them the techniques of the "Watch Me!" attitude anytime the opportunity arises; like when someone teases them or doubts their abilities (young kids in the schools love learning this method when I have taught it to them). Kids are smart, and they want to learn how to handle things for themselves. Give them the opportunity to learn this when they are young, and they will develop it to be stronger as they mature and grow. Many times a parent has attempted to drop off his child at my therapy office and then leave to go run some chores. Counseling an adolescent is a family systems problem. A teen is usually angry about what is going on in the household. And parents, you are a part of the problem and part of the solution, so you must attend counseling for the family to learn a new dynamic of interaction. The topics of respect and empathy are discussed too. It is important for you to respect your children, and for them to respect you.
From the Chapter to Teens:
A lot of teens in my counseling office want more freedoms as they age, and rightfully so. I am on their side. But what they must understand is that they have to prove responsibility, maturity and good choices to their parents. Parents are afraid to let you go they love you and they have spent many years protecting you. Now, they are "supposed to let you go." This is fearful for them, and it is a negotiation process that takes time. I help my young clients come to terms with their parents' feelings and wishes, and yet, we are still able to get some new freedoms for them. We establish curfews and a chore list. Teens must learn they need to be a working part of the "adult team" if they want some freedoms of a young adult. As a parent, I agree that it is hard to raise children we do the very best we can and many times we falter. Kids, just know that your parent loves you, and many times we are afraid ourselves with what we are going through. Some parents forget what it's like to be a teen remind them! I do as a therapist; I tell them that you put in a very long and hard day at school, and the last thing you want is "20 questions" when you get home from school. In all, you are handling a 12-14 hour day, five days a week. It is exhausting, and parents need to be reminded of that. If they are nagging or questioning you, ask them calmly if you can talk later, after you rest a bit. My adolescent clients come to understand that their parents are stressed out with finances, juggling schedules, working a lot of hours, and then have household chores too. If a teen is willing to step up and help out, then a parent will want to reward them in various ways. Rewards, rules and discipline must be established for the teen and discussed up front so that the teen knows the consequences of making a bad choice or being irresponsible. The "Watch Me!" attitude tells you as teens to go for your dreams and it shows you how reach them one step at a time. See Alexi's chapters in Part Two to learn what she did as a teenager and young woman in her 20s to stay focused enough to reach her dreams and goals as a recording artist, model, actor, and business woman, despite all the odds and competition. If she can do it, you can too. You just have to really want it, believe that you will achieve it, and tie your goals and dreams into living your Highest Purpose in Life!
Words from Alexi's Section:
What is the "Watch Me!" attitude all about? This is a question that took me a good six years to discover. At 15, I was just like any other starry-eyed dreamer who wanted what I thought was the best out of life at that time: success, money and fame. I was determined to take my talents in singing, dancing and songwriting and join the crop of young pop/R&B artists in the music world. I started to map out my plan. . . . My journey with the record label continued for three years after that date. I had recorded multiple songs with different artists, begun working on my album, traveled the world on tour, sang on stage in front of 30,000 people, and landed myself on two multi-platinum albums. Pretty impressive for a 19-year-old, but something bigger was missing: something that I was either too excited or too naive to see. Not knowing what this "thing" was, but knowing that it didn't feel right, I quit. I stopped showing up to the studio, stopped writing and engineering my own songs, stopped seeking out producers to collaborate with, I just stopped. I had set out to achieve this goal, to prove to the disbelievers that I could, and I did. So why wasn't I feeling satisfied? I began doing a lot of soul searching, trying to find the reason for this sudden departure of my love for music. I came to find out, what seemed so hard to find had always been right in front of me, I was just too engulfed in what was created. My answer: music, or any dream, should not be something that is done for fame or fortune. Even all the "famous" and "rich" artists that I had met during my travels weren't truly happy. They all had some sort of addiction that allowed them to escape from the misery they made for themselves. It shouldn't be done for money or fame, because that can always be taken away, at any moment, and then what are you left with, broken dreams? This is when my true understanding of the "Watch Me!" attitude came into play. "Watch Me!" is not about achieving success in the eyes of the world, or for the world's approval; it's about proving to yourself that you can succeed in your destiny by living for a Higher Purpose. It's about fulfilling your deepest desires and creative needs, expressing yourself, and being yourself. "Watch Me!" is something that you should be saying to yourself, not to others. It's something that should inspire you to overcome your own negativity and self-doubt and prove to yourself that YOU CAN ACHIEVE ANYTHING IF YOU BELIEVE YOU CAN! . . . . . In conclusion, the "Watch Me!" attitude has to be applied to your innermost self. Take your frustration with not feeling complete in your current life and apply it to finding your true self and ultimate destiny through motivational and inspirational reading, journaling your goals and feelings, meditation for focus and conviction, and surrendering to your Divine Higher Power. You cannot just sit around and wait for miracles to happen. You must take an active role in defining your goals and refining your talents, so that when Success comes knocking on your door, you're dressed and ready to go! So take the time, you're worth it! And not only will you prove your destiny to the world, but more importantly, you'll prove it to yourself!
In Conclusion
We were all meant for greatness, so I ask you, what will you do today to improve your journey in life? Start with your Desire to Change, and then incorporate the other four D's (determination/drive, dedication, devotion and dare to dream!) to get you going on your goals. When you look back, you will see your amazing life unfold with such pride and accomplishment. In sharing the philosophy of the "Watch Me!" attitude with you, it is my hope that you have stopped to rethink your direction, re-value your time and relationships, decided that a spiritual sense of purpose is of utmost importance, that balance within your various Life Spheres must be constantly monitored, that indeed, our Higher Divine Power did give us many talents that not only can bring us personal happiness and success, but ultimately, the ability to serve and give back to others. I thank you all for taking this journey with Alexi and I, and I truly pray that the words "Watch Me!" burn forever within your hearts, minds and souls as a glorious, bright shining light leading the way to your ultimate Higher Purpose!
About Terriana (RIANA) Milne; Co-Authored by Alexi Danielle Panos
Riana Milne has a triple Masters Degree in Applied Clinical Psychology, and is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Drug & Alcohol Counselor with her own practice, Therapy by the Sea, LLC. She has also been a Student Assistance Counselor within various schools at all grade levels. Being an Inter-Faith Minister, Riana often uses Spiritual concepts added to her Motivational Therapy style to help create Holistic change for personal growth in mind, body and soul; as well as to help people of all ages reach their goals, dreams, and Higher Purpose in Life. The ôWatch Me!ö attitude began for Riana at age 16 with her own challenging journey, but became a way of life and an Instructional Motivational Program for Success for students of all ages; including many models, actors, singers, dancers, business, corporate, and therapy clients over the past 22 years. Riana is also a Professional speaker and Advice columnist living in Southern NJ. Co-Authored by Alexi D. Panos, the youngest daughter of Riana Milne; Alexi is an amazing young woman who has climbed to the top of many personal and professional ladders. After reaching a high level of worldly success in the music and fashion industries at the age of 16 and in the corporate world at age 21, Alexi recognized that true success could only come from within. What started as an external drive, the ôWatch Me!ö attitude has now become something that Alexi challenges her inner self with everyday. Now she dares you to let yourself go and take the first step of your own Ladder of Goals and Dreams and continue the climb as you explore and come to know the real, authentic you!
This book is for you! Most of us can think of a time when our loved ones doubted us or never thought we would amount to anything extraordinary. The "Watch Me!" attitude is a journey into your inner most thoughts, feelings, and desires as well as a method to accomplish all you dream to be. By practicing these techniques daily, you will reach your goals and prove all your doubters wrong! But the "Watch Me!" attitude is not about achieving personal success with anger and revenge just the opposite it is an enlightening journey to discover your Best Self and Higher Purpose in Life through using helpful Motivational & Spiritual Psychological techniques which includes learning: 
Riana Milne has a triple Masters Degree in Applied Clinical Psychology, and is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Drug & Alcohol Counselor with her own practice, Therapy by the Sea, LLC. She has also been a Student Assistance Counselor within various schools at all grade levels. Being an Inter-Faith Minister, Riana often uses Spiritual concepts added to her Motivational Therapy style to help create Holistic change for personal growth in mind, body and soul; as well as to help people of all ages reach their goals, dreams, and Higher Purpose in Life. The ôWatch Me!ö attitude began for Riana at age 16 with her own challenging journey, but became a way of life and an Instructional Motivational Program for Success for students of all ages; including many models, actors, singers, dancers, business, corporate, and therapy clients over the past 22 years. Riana is also a Professional speaker and Advice columnist living in Southern NJ.